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Every mom knows that mornings are tough. No matter what your situation in life may be, if you’re a working mom, a stay-at-home mom, a work-part-time mom, (I’ve been all three!) it’s hard. But, if you have the right plan, you can change your life. I’ve outlined the three most common situations for moms-pick yours and let me show you how to make mornings easier.
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Situation #1: “I have to get out of the house early.”
If you are a working mom who has to get her kids to daycare or a stay-at-home mom who needs to get her kids off to school, this is for you.
The Power of Planning: Do Everything You Can the Night Before
You know this, you really do. You’ve heard this time and time again. But, I’m here to tell you that you must do it. I know you’re tired at night and really don’t feel like making lunches and laying clothes out, but to have a smooth morning, it’s very, very worth it. Try to get your partner to help out with at least one of the tasks (like making lunch, I really hate doing that…) Here’s what you need to do the night before:
- Lay out your clothes.
- Lay out the kids clothes (plus shoes).
- Make your lunch.
- Make your kids lunches.
- Set up your coffee pot ahead of time.
- Fill your water bottle.
Make a Routine for the Kids in the Morning
If your kids are like my kids, they need a little prodding along in the morning. I find that my preschooler really responds to a written routine. Use a big piece of poster board or even a smaller piece of construction paper to illustrate the routine you would like her to follow. For example, you can draw or cut out pictures of the tasks she needs to complete like brushing her teeth, getting dressed, etc.
Plan for one Win for You
This is probably the most important part of the routine, so don’t skip over it: I want you to plan something-just one thing-that’s enjoyable for you. That might mean you listen to a fun podcast or an awesome audio book on the way to work. Maybe it means you savor your favorite coffee for just a few minutes, or you stop at your favorite coffee shop on the way to work. Maybe it means that you wake up a few minutes before your kids and make the time to exercise, meditate, pray or read. Whatever it is, make sure you think about what would bring you joy in the morning and be sure to add it to your routine. It’s just as important as your 4-year-old brushing her teeth!
Situation #2: “I have littles at home and I don’t do mornings.”
Many experts advocate getting up before your children (more on that in the next section), but, like that fabulously snarky Garfield the Cat, I’m just not a morning person. I’ve tried it a few times and I think it’s an awesome idea. But, I would rather get as much sleep as I can. Also, my kids seem to hear the exact moment that my foot hits the floorboard outside of my room because they usually seem to wake up as soon as I do. If you want to make a good morning for yourself without waking up before your kids, read on.
If I’m not working or driving my kids to school, I have a very specific plan. I make sure my kids are settled first-they’ve been fed and have used the potty. I put on Sesame Street, which absolutely captivates them. You really can’t go wrong with this show, everything on it is educational and positive. I have no problem that my kids are glued to it because they’re learning so much from it. It’s also endorsed as an appropriate form of screen time by the American Academy of Pediatrics.
I put my son in his playpen so he’s safe for me to go into the other room. My daughter has her milk and her breakfast and I take that time for myself. I always, always make myself a really good cup of coffee, sit near the kitchen window, and write longhand in my journal.
On a really good day, I’ll fit some time in for exercise. I’m a big fan of streaming workouts because it’s very tough for me to get a babysitter to go to a gym. I really love Barre3, which is a barre workout that combines ballet, yoga, and Pilates. It’s relaxing, empowering, and fun-and with the streaming subscription, you can take it anywhere. You can click on the banner below to sign up!
Please note: This is my morning routine on a really, really good day. Some days, I just have to pick and choose what I have time for. It’s all about prioritizing what will make you feel your best. Personally, I love to savor a good cup of coffee for a few minutes. If I don’t have much time, I make sure I set aside at least 5 minutes of peace with my coffee.
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Situation #3: “I don’t mind waking up before my kids.”
If you’re willing to get up before your kids, you have the golden ticket! This makes it extremely easy to make time for yourself in the morning. My advice is to choose whatever activity or group of activities that will make you feel your best and energized throughout the day. You might want to enjoy your coffee in peace while you write, read a good book, or scroll through the news. Maybe exercise makes you feel your best. It’s helpful to sleep in yoga pants-that way you can just roll right into your exercise. This is a wonderful way to start your day: Michelle Obama credits getting up before her kids to work out as a significant part of her routine. (This isn’t exactly the shock of the century-You don’t get fabulous arms like that just from genetics alone).
Whatever situation of life you may be in, I recommend that you spend at least a small amount of your morning routine getting dressed and putting a little makeup on (if you like makeup, that is). I know that sounds shallow, but here’s the thing-you just feel better inside when you feel good about yourself on the outside. I’ve spent plenty of days looking like night of the living dead after the baby’s been up half the night and I didn’t want to bother to look nice. But I find that a tiny bit of makeup and actually getting dressed in something comfortable, but also something that looks nice, makes you feel better inside. Remember, you deserve to feel like a person.
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